Ok so here's the deal. Ive been gone from this game for quite some time, and I don't know the quests like the back of my hand. It seems that EVERYONE now only runs R1. I feel like there are noobies that try this game out and they are either never doing the LFM (because no one joins anything below R1 any way...) or they get frustrated and leave. For me, personally - I have been getting frustrated by joining R1 groups and being as useless as a (certain bodily orifice) on my elbow, because mainly whats happening is it goes like this. I look up a build, they either REQUIRE tomes I do not have, or past lives I do not have. It seems like the community as a whole stays away from first life builds like strahd would stay away from mother Teresa or something... So trying new builds that are posted are hit or miss, so what I end up doing is putting my own spin or flavor on such builds to suit my gameplaying objectives, and this usually trashes the build or changes it in a detrimental way. When I try to join an R1 group - its usually someone with LOTS more hp than I do and 1 shots everything and just zooms across the map and either leaves mobs up that kill me or slows me down. One bad experience I had was in Ravenloft for the quest "An Invitation to Dinner". Ran R1 and when it got to the staircase part the person leading jumped all the way down and somehow entered the door at the bottom INSTANTLY. This left up 3 wraiths that wouldn't let me enter the door cause kept getting interrupted, then was knocked unconscious then dead. I rezzed and then promptly left the group, because IT WAS NOT FUN AT ALL AND THE IDEA OF THIS GAME I THOUGHT WAS TO HAVE FUN.
So it led me to do this instead. I wont join any LFMs because why bother. So as a (now after all the other shenanigans thats been happening) am a F2P player (permanently) and thusly I cannot run anything on hard/elite, so I adopted a new mentality: Run EVERYTHING on Normal. The reasoning for this is as such, I looked on the wiki at all the quests and the exp you get from hard/elite, and let me tell you, the juice simply isnt worth the squeeze. I run trappers almost every single life, and with first time run bonuses, flawless victories (which are easily achievable on normal) and shrines that can be used over and over again and me not knowing the quests, its just a far far far more relaxing and chill (read: FUN and ENJOYING) experience to just be matched to the content, rather than feeling like dead weight as a bad build first lifer in an LFM perma riding the soulstone express. People usually dont like pikers, but if you are gonna be a first lifer in an R1 youre gonna be piking any way so... Better to avoid the repair bill and the boring watching someone else play the game while you are in their pocket.
Last night I exercised this and ran Threnal on norm and hit every trap, broke every box, and killed every mob I could and I got way more exp on each leg of the journey than I think I would have even gotten on elite. So rather than being a sweaty tryhard running everything on the max diff on a 1st life character and living in frustration, I think this is way better for me. The exp you gain (BASE) from running hard/elite, the amount you get (usually 200 exp more LOL!!!) just is not worth it.
So I dont care if I am F2P and cant open hard/elite, I a perfectly fine being a 1st lifer norm running scrub perma solo. At least I can enjoy the game better in this way.
So to any newbies who are struggling playing the game, just open the wiki, run the highest exp yield quests on NORMAL (2 times if you have to) and roll trappers to offset the penalties and you'll be fine. I feel like R1 being the "gold standard" now has only hurt the game more than anything, but that's just me.