"softcore" server with both reaper and reincarnation disabled would ONLY contain LFMs for non-powergamers
I like idea of starter server that has no reincarnation (I would also turn off reaper tree, tomes, and ship buffs, while allow for shared bank where you can collect your items, including crafted), but I would still keep reaper difficulty for players who want more challenge, at least R1 (when you have enough knowledge about the game).
There also should be possibility for free transfer to standard servers (you could bring all your collected items).
The current situation is layer upon layer of complexities for new gamers: complex interfaces, neverending options, powergamers, reaper etc etc
Interface is user friendly in my opinion (similar to various other rpg games I played), but biggest strength is possibility to customize it.
Having many options is also positive thing if you ask me.
Dnd is complex system that requires knowledge, so you like it for this or its not your cape of tea.
If someone prefer simpler games, then there are already many titles to choose.