Well I am actually not here to apologize or make excuses for anybody.
You may also want to consider your own entitlement at this. One guild asked for you to run with them a bit to get to know you. Your response might benefit a bit from self reflection to your reaction to this very reasonable ask. It is why those guilds don't implode and the responsibility of guild leadership to ensure that all enjoy the guild.
I am not sure why something could be considered a terrible inconvenience, maybe its a generational issue that at my age I don't get. These people took the time to talk with you and offered to run with you. People like Griglok should be commended for this. I have had the less than joyful experience of being nice and inviting new people only to have issues with people not being a good fit.
As far as Kyber goes I have offered support of me and my guild who while I believe would not be suitable for you could have answered any of your questions and provided advice which you stated was a major issue.
Population declining. Yep a 17 year old game with no advertising and Kyber not being the default world for probably over a decade sure it will. However my guild just added 2 brand new players, they understand that most of our guild is not in the TR game part but end game.
If you don't find Kyber to your liking that is your choice. But to blame others who were actually trying to assist but imposed some small considerations to make sure you were a good fit first? That is just bad form and I think something you might want to consider moving forward.
Good luck.
normally I would've let this go, but you just flat out lied about multiple things, or maybe you are confused about what happened, I'm not sure, but allow me to set the record straight:
- first off, no one offered to run anything with me. That's the problem! I literally sat in Grigoks discord talking to him, his wife, & a whole bunch of their guild members for many hours that night. I even posted a little get to know me & posted a pic of me in their discord, both of which were ignored (no interaction with the posts, not even a lil thumbs up or anything).
The entire time I was there in their discord, they never asked me ANY questions about myself (except 1, where did I live) or attempted to get to know me at all (which I thought was super odd if they had any interest in adding me, why no questions?!). In fact, it was quite the opposite, it was just them telling me over & over that it was goin to take a considerable amount of time before (or even if) I would get a guild invite & that was only after someone from the guild ran with me multiple times. So i waited all that night (friday), nothing, all day saturday, nothing, all day sunday, nothing. not a single person reached out, despite all of them telling me they had me on their friends list so they could do just that. no messages on discord either!
by monday I was over it & decided to just unsub from the game, because I was exhausted from spending two weeks trying 8 to 10+ hours every day, both on the forums AND in game, trying to find a guild that would accept me & play with me. I found no one! All I found was excuses on why folks couldn't or wouldn't play with me. So I was stuck playing alone, every single day. Like I even went back & checked my email to figure out when I started playing again & it was Jan 12th, but I couldn't get onto the forums for quite some time, because of the "security features" despite me contacting both support & the community manager via pm to help me fix it. So it's actually been like 3 weeks, almost a month I've been trying to get this sorted with no luck at all.
Secondly, As for the "terrible inconvenience" that was in regards to me giving up all my infrastructure on khyber, ie: ddo store purchased bags, bank space, inventory space, bank mules, past characters from launch, etc & start all over fresh on a less horrible server. That's what I was talking about. I thought was very clear, but I guess not.
Lastly, As for you & your guilds offer. All you offered was the ability to ask & answer questions. That's it. You even said yourself your guild was "unsuitable" for me, & in the same breath said you added 2 brand new players to your guild recently, so then why am I unsuitable & they aren't?.
Like if I just needed a question answered, I can do that with a youtube video & a wiki page. I was looking for interaction with other people in a mmo, I know, it's a wild idea, but hear me out, see folks used to play games with other random people & actually enjoyed themselves!. Nowadays, y'all are beyond antisocial & almost down right xenophobic about allowing any new people into your circles & at the end of the day you are just punishing yourselves. So enjoy your dwindling player base on your dead server & I will simply go do something else.
but I won't allow you to just flat out lie or misrepresent what actually happened. I know what happened, I was there.
